Random Thoughts About Love

None of these thoughts are necessarily related. Just a compilation of things I jot down in my notebook whenever I think about love, hear someone else speak about love, or struggle with love...or the idea of love. Honestly, I'm just tired of seeing people down talk love. Saying it's overrated or it doesn't exist.These random blurbs may not even make sense to anyone but me. I thought I'd share. Take it how you want. Some thoughts are unfinished...some thoughts are repetitive...but here you go.
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Love is like that popular kid in school, or a celebrity that everyone claims to know. You know, when you hear someone say  "Yea, I know so and so, we went to high school together" If you ever get the chance to meet so and so and ask them yourself they're like "Ummm no, I don't know that person, I mean I've seen them before, but I don't KNOW them" Yea...that's kind of how I think of Love.

Everyone throws the term love out there like they know her...yea let's just say love is a her. They call her overrated, they say there is nothing to define it, Some say she doesn't even exist. In my opinion, its easy to say such things about something or someone, when you haven't yet experienced it for yourself. Or even better when you have experienced something that you thought was love, but it really wasn't. You may have seen love before, you have spoken to her in the hallways and maybe she didn't hear you so she didn't speak back. But you don't KNOW her. You may have had a brief conversation with her and wasn't impressed, so you call her overrated. But you don't KNOW her. Some people may feel what I'm saying some may not.

I'm here to defend Love. If you knew love, there would nothing negative you could say about her. Just because you had one little brief experience where you THOUGHT you met love, doesn't mean you know her. Give love a chance. Get to know her.
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When you go around looking for love, you tend to project the idea of love on everyone. You go around trying to be in love with everyone instead of trying to get to know them. You may find out later, that you don't even like them...but then you claim love is overrated. You don't know love...
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Love is not something that just "comes with time". You don't just grow to love someone. You can grow to tolerate. You can grow to be comfortable. You can grow to be infatuated (that fades after a short while). But just because you've been with someone for a long period of time doesn't mean that you are in love. Love is a choice and a conscious effort between TWO people...
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Love is not a step. So many people treat it as the next thing in line on a relationship timeline. "1st you meet, then you date for 3 weeks. After 3 weeks he must commit to me, after 6 months he must tell me he loves me, after 3 years he must propose to me." Then find themselves 10 years later waking up next to someone who they don't even like. Complaining about everything they do. Should have taken the time to get to know that before you decided to pursue an exclusive relationship. So many people have got it backwards.
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Love is a choice that both people have to make. If you have chosen to love someone and they don't love you back then don't blame love, blame yourself for choosing to love someone that didn't choose to love you back.
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If a man is truly interested in you, he WILL let you know. He will be exclusive if he wants to. He will call if he wants to. He will come see you wherever you are (within his means) if he wants to, he will take you anywhere you want to go (within his means) if he wants to. So if you have to beg and nag for any of the above, maybe its not just a man being afraid to love or afraid to commit. Maybe he's just not that into you.
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Many people look for a definition of love, citing the dictionary and other references. I think the bible defines what love is quite clearly. These are the characteristics of love. This is what you experience and project to others when you're in love.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious, or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way ; It is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

This is what GOD said, so if you take a situation that doesn't model this but in fact is based off of other things like sex, attractiveness, selfishness or loneliness and call it love, How can you be surprised when your relationship is miserable and ridden with argument, resentment and the bad times outweigh the good?  How can you blame LOVE for your shortcomings? God told you here what love is. Some people just need to learn to be obedient. IT'S RIGHT HERE, clearly spelled out. When you find someone who models these things THEN you have found love. But until then... you don't know love.
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And my final thought and favorite quote:

"Whoever says love is overrated, must not be getting none."
                                                                                         -Amel Larrieux